Expats backlash against Kiwi women
Just Me (North Shore)
Maybe they are hiding away, scared of the pseudo-men the feminist emancipation turned the women into? By nature a man wants a partner of the opposite sex who exhibit feminine traits, have poise, and wants to be treated like a lady. Unfortunately those traits seem to have been ditched by a large percentage of kiwi women in favour of male mannerisms, which are not traits a man searches for in a partner. So ladies, instead of acting like abrasive men, do try being a bit more ladylike, you may just be surprised at the results. Stop looking down on men as simpleton seed-carriers and treat them with respect, and you can expect the same courtesy been returned. You don't have to carry on like savages to prove your assertiveness. Let the man in your life feel important, and you can do this without being submissive. Don't henpeck him, all you are then is a replacement mother, and that is exactly what they don't want. A working relationship is all about give and take from both parties, without that you may as well break it off now.
Fran O'Sullivan's article last week on the so-called 'man drought' Auckland is experiencing has attracted a curious response that is somewhat revealing of larger societal attitudes in Kiwi culture. While O'Sullivan attempts to trace the long-term impact on the economy of women outnumbering men by 10% in those aged 35, a traditional age for settling down, more than 60% of the comments posted by readers are from men complaining about Kiwi women. Chiding our female population as 'ham-bottomed', 'slovenly', 'drunk' and 'bad dressers', these men complain that the impact of feminism in NZ has created a society of women that have taken up masculine characteristics. The answer, they assert, is for Kiwi men to engage in sex tourism overseas in cultures that they perceive as having more passive women – such as Asia, Russia and Britain.
Certainly, many of the posts seem to come from bitter NZ men that have been unlucky with the ladies here and gone overseas for 'greener pastures'. It is true that we do have a unique gender dynamic – a 2005 study by advertising agency FCB found that we were the only country to exhibit a “gender blending” phenomenon in our ads where women gained kudos through performing masculine tasks. But the level and tone of response signals that a broader malaise within Kiwi masculinity, a regressive backlash against women's advances in NZ. Reading these comments, the only positive appears to be that the savvy women of our nation are enacting a perverse form of social evolution: we are breeding this sexism out of our culture by forcing these men to go overseas for sex.